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What are you doing to sabotage yourself?

Are you still thinking about your ex?  Are you still thinking she should come crawling back, because you were right?  Are you wasting your life thinking that being right should make her come back?

It is a hard lesson to learn that being "right" won’t make you popular or desirable, especially to women.  You will just end up "right" and alone.

Whatever happened is done, right or wrong, good or bad, it is over.  It didn’t keep you together then and it won’t bring you back together now or in the future.  If you want to get her back or just move on, you need to do the same thing.  You need to move on and put your life back together.  Women are not attracted to weak men who wallow in self pity, pining after them.  They are attracted to confident men whose lives’ are interesting and full.  You need to put your life back on track and start filling it with interesting things.  You need to succeed in your goals.  You do have goals don’t you?  Women can also smell lack of ambition from miles away.  You need to improve yourself and your life in order to attract more women.

You may think that women like to be chased, but this isn’t so.  Women like to chase.  If you are always available and there for them, they will run all over you and dump you for someone who isn’t.  Fill your life with fun, important activities and projects and put them before the women in your life.  Schedule your meetings around your activities, not instead of them.

Fix you.  Get your priorities straight.  Never put them in front of you or your life.  You are more important than them.  And this is what will draw them to you.  Most men put them on a pedestal, but you should be putting you and your life on the pedestal.  This will cause them to want to share the pedestal with you.  The harder you make it to get up there with you the more they will want to be there.  Don’t cave and if you let them visit your pedestal make sure to knock them back off, so that they will want back up on it again.

You are number one.

Dolmon

AllWomenAreCrazy.com

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Ok, so I had a mini-revelation over the weekend.  My friend set me up on a double date to meet one of his wife’s friends.  She was a nice person and seemed to be fun loving.  Problem was I felt no attraction.

After the lunch my friend asked for feedback on whether I was interested or not.  I found myself being wishy-washy and my friend was smart enough to nail me down on it and get the not interested out of me.

Why was I not decisive?  Was it my last bad relationship?  Was it that I did not want to offend my friend or his wife?  Did I maybe think that any relationship would at least be practice?  It was probably a little of all of them.

After I got to no, I thought back on it and could see that for many reasons no was the correct answer.  There is no sense in leading on someone whom you have no interest in.  If you are taking time for a relationship that you believe is going nowhere then you don’t have time for the other things that you need to do.

It made me think of a book that I had just read called Necessary Endings by Henry Cloud.  The book applies to all areas of life, relationship, business etc.  Basically it says that it is a natural process that some things must come to an end so that you can move on to other things.

What dead end activities are you putting your time into that are preventing you from moving forward in your relationships, finances, work etc.?

What friendships do you not enjoy anymore?  Is your job holding you back?

We do a lot of things that kill time, but provide little benefit.  TV, movies, eating out and video games just to name a few.   I am not saying that you don’t need some entertainment or human interaction.  I am saying that you probably spend to much time entertaining yourself and you should want to change some of your activities to line up with your current goals.

What you don’t have any goal?  Well why are you here?  Don’t you want to find new women to interact with?  Have you read a relationship book, taken a seminar or even just talked about how to interact with women with your friends?  Pick something and start doing it.  If you think you don’t have time or money, it is because you have chosen to invest in something else.  If that does not align with your goals any more you need to shift your time and money so that it is being used to get you where you want to go.

If it’s not women, but skydiving, becoming a pilot or learning a new language you need to make it a priority if it is going to happen.  We all have short term things that keep us from things for awhile, but these should be be things like a court date, not playing poker 3 nights a week.

Only you can determine how to spend your time and resources.  If what you are doing now is not working then only you can change that.  Start making changes immediately and the momentum towards your goal will accelerate.

Get it done.

Dolmon

AllWomenAreCrazy.com

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Ok, so you dumped her, she dumped you whatever!

What is important now is you!  Stop thinking about her.  Don’t worry if she is ok.  Don’t think about what she is doing.  Don’t think about what she has done.  Concentrate on what you control.  You can only control you!

Wiser men than I have said "Your outer-world will always reflect your inner-world."

What does this mean?  It means you cannot control the world, but you can control you.  If you control yourself the rest will take care of itself.

Stop moping around wondering if she’ll come back.  Get your butt off the couch and make your life better.  Make it enjoyable and desirable.  This you can control.  Set a few goals.  Get to it and get them done.

If you want to attract a desirable woman, including any ex girlfriend, you have to be living an exciting life that is moving in a desirable direction.  Learn something new.  No not the latest video game, how about dancing or a new language.  Improve your professional skills.  Improve your recreational skills.  Take up a new sport.

Put your financial life in order.  Pay down debt.  Get a better job.

Dress better.  Get new clothing.  Spend more time grooming.

Get fit.  Go to the gym.  Take a walk.  Go on a diet.  Eat better.  Lose weight.

When you put your mind on these things, then the rest of your life will begin to come together also.  If you aren’t attracting someone new into your life, how are you expecting to draw the ex girlfriend back?  If no one else wants you why would she?

Get off you butt and get it done.  The couch will still be there for you unless you fill it with new people. So get to it.

Stop the tension relieving activities and get on with the goal achieving activities.

Forward always forward.

Piss the ex off by succeeding.  This will drive them crazy!

Dolmon

AllWomenAreCrazy.com

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Things to do after a breakup:

Get rid of her stuff.
    You need to get her out of your mind.  Her stuff, pictures, pets and anything else needs to go.  Make her pick them up.  Pack them out of the way, or whatever.  Don’t let them mess up your recovery.

Go to the gym.
    Do it for you.  You need to get into shape for the next relationship.  It is also great stress relief.  Ramp up this area of your life.

Find a distraction.
    In the beginning you just need something to get her out of your mind.  It took me three weeks before the knot in my stomach was gone.  During this time you need activities to consume your life.  Get a new video game, see movies, read books, go out with friends or whatever you can bring yourself to do.

Get some new cloths.
    You need to feel good about yourself.  Make sure to replace anything she bought or gave to you.  You don’t need the pain of thinking about a heartless bitch all the time.  Get the clothes that will take you to a level above what you would wear with her.  This will serve to piss her off and make you look and feel more successful.

Go on a diet.
    Even if you don’t need to lose weight, just eat better for more energy.  This is something that is very easy to ignore.  Bad food taste good and is way cheaper than the healthy alternatives.  Find a diet or healthy food that you like and drop the extra pounds.  This will make you feel better and attract better women into your life.

Get together with your friends.
    A breakup will show you who your real friends are.  They are the one’s that are there for you.  No one can be there all the time, but you just got done listening to the lies of your ex, so you can probably tell which of your "friends" is giving you the run around and which are legit.  Remember their help and make sure you are there for them in their times of need.

Talk to other women.
    Talking to other women will help you move on.  Don’t talk about your ex, talk about anything else.  Get back into the swing of interacting with them.

Get back into the dating scene.
    You need to get back into the ring as soon as possible.  Take a little bit of time to straighten your life out and then jump back in.  The best defense against your ex coming back is to have someone better already in your life.

Improve yourself.
    In order to draw quality people into your life you need to be continually improving yourself.  It is said that you will not outgrow your 10 closest friends.  They will determine what you become in life, so make sure you replace any friends that are dragging you down like that led weight of an ex-girlfriend.

Let’s face it, no one breaks up because a woman shows up and has sex with them.  It’s always the shit that goes on before and after the sex that makes it not worth putting up with them.  If you want to show up, fuck me and leave, then bring it.  If I have to put up with your problems, games and bullshit then I may pass.  If I have to support your sorry ass, then you better be keeping me very happy and there better be no bullshit.

Dolmon

AllWomenAreCrazy.com

AllWomenAreCrazy.com

    Let’s face it, even if you know the relationship has to end, breakups suck.  But you have to get through it, move on and put your life back together. 

Things to do after a breakup:

Get rid of her stuff.
    You need to get her out of your mind.  Her stuff, pictures, pets and anything else needs to go.  Make her pick them up.  Pack them out of the way, or whatever.  Don’t let them mess up your recovery.

Go to the gym.
    Do it for you.  You need to get into shape for the next relationship.  It is also great stress relief.  Ramp up this area of your life.

Find a distraction.
    In the beginning you just need something to get her out of your mind.  It took me three weeks before the knot in my stomach was gone.  During this time you need activities to consume your life.  Get a new video game, see movies, read books, go out with friends or whatever you can bring yourself to do.

Get some new cloths.
    You need to feel good about yourself.  Make sure to replace anything she bought or gave to you.  You don’t need the pain of thinking about a heartless bitch all the time.  Get the clothes that will take you to a level above what you would wear with her.  This will serve to piss her off and make you look and feel more successful.

Go on a diet.
    Even if you don’t need to lose weight, just eat better for more energy.  This is something that is very easy to ignore.  Bad food taste good and is way cheaper than the healthy alternatives.  Find a diet or healthy food that you like and drop the extra pounds.  This will make you feel better and attract better women into your life.

Get together with your friends.
    A breakup will show you who your real friends are.  They are the one’s that are there for you.  No one can be there all the time, but you just got done listening to the lies of your ex, so you can probably tell which of your "friends" is giving you the run around and which are legit.  Remember their help and make sure you are there for them in their times of need.

Talk to other women.
    Talking to other women will help you move on.  Don’t talk about your ex, talk about anything else.  Get back into the swing of interacting with them.

Get back into the dating scene.
    You need to get back into the ring as soon as possible.  Take a little bit of time to straighten your life out and then jump back in.  The best defense against your ex coming back is to have someone better already in your life.

Improve yourself.
    In order to draw quality people into your life you need to be continually improving yourself.  It is said that you will not outgrow your 10 closest friends.  They will determine what you become in life, so make sure you replace any friends that are dragging you down like that led weight of an ex-girlfriend.

Dolmon

AllWomenAreCrazy.com