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Ok, so I had a mini-revelation over the weekend. My friend set me up on a double date to meet one of his wife’s friends. She was a nice person and seemed to be fun loving. Problem was I felt no attraction.
After the lunch my friend asked for feedback on whether I was interested or not. I found myself being wishy-washy and my friend was smart enough to nail me down on it and get the not interested out of me.
Why was I not decisive? Was it my last bad relationship? Was it that I did not want to offend my friend or his wife? Did I maybe think that any relationship would at least be practice? It was probably a little of all of them.
After I got to no, I thought back on it and could see that for many reasons no was the correct answer. There is no sense in leading on someone whom you have no interest in. If you are taking time for a relationship that you believe is going nowhere then you don’t have time for the other things that you need to do.
It made me think of a book that I had just read called Necessary Endings by Henry Cloud. The book applies to all areas of life, relationship, business etc. Basically it says that it is a natural process that some things must come to an end so that you can move on to other things.
What dead end activities are you putting your time into that are preventing you from moving forward in your relationships, finances, work etc.?
What friendships do you not enjoy anymore? Is your job holding you back?
We do a lot of things that kill time, but provide little benefit. TV, movies, eating out and video games just to name a few. I am not saying that you don’t need some entertainment or human interaction. I am saying that you probably spend to much time entertaining yourself and you should want to change some of your activities to line up with your current goals.
What you don’t have any goal? Well why are you here? Don’t you want to find new women to interact with? Have you read a relationship book, taken a seminar or even just talked about how to interact with women with your friends? Pick something and start doing it. If you think you don’t have time or money, it is because you have chosen to invest in something else. If that does not align with your goals any more you need to shift your time and money so that it is being used to get you where you want to go.
If it’s not women, but skydiving, becoming a pilot or learning a new language you need to make it a priority if it is going to happen. We all have short term things that keep us from things for awhile, but these should be be things like a court date, not playing poker 3 nights a week.
Only you can determine how to spend your time and resources. If what you are doing now is not working then only you can change that. Start making changes immediately and the momentum towards your goal will accelerate.
Get it done.
Dolmon
AllWomenAreCrazy.com
